Now that I am at the ripe old age of 27 (for one more day), and everyone seems to be getting engaged or married I have found that I am even more perplexed by the whole process than ever before. Let me first say, I am not a feminist. In a perfect world I would be a stay at home mom and cook, clean and take care of the children while "the man" brings home the bacon. With that said, I find is fascinating how old fashioned the whole wedding process is.
The engagement: Let's assume you have been dating someone for some time (for some people it's 6 months, others 4 years...ahem) and you feel that you are ready spend the rest of your life with them. This is the point in the relationship where the "roles" of male and female come into play (because by this point you have forgotten about all the games that were played in the beginning; should I call him, will he call me, etc). So basically, during this time the woman sits patiently while the man determines when, where and how he will propose. Sometimes that waiting period seems to drag on a bit and all the while the girl is left to wonder and wait. It seems crazy to me that in this world of female empowerment, no matter how smart and successful the woman is, she still waits for that blessed day when she will be asked to marry the man of her dreams. Until then she waits and fends off comments such as "when do you think you'll get engaged," and "HOW long have you two been dating?"
The wedding: Lately, I have been lucky enough to see some amazing weddings! Whenever I question what type of wedding I want (Destination? Elope? Local?) I think about all the friends and family dancing and smiling the night away with everyone they love in a room together. It's amazing to see and makes me excited to do it as well! With that, I wonder where the idea of the woman's family paying for it came from? Granted, 99% of the things that go on during a wedding are the girl's idea and about 82% of the those things go unnoticed by the husband, but I would think this is your first event together as husband and wife, shouldn't everyone come together to throw this event?
Based on the comments above you probably think I'm bitter (waiting for a ring) and jaded (thinking about paying for the wedding), which I will say, I'm not at all! I love the idea that I don't know when and where and how I will be proposed to and I think the idea of planning a wedding is fun and exciting. I just find it interesting that of all the things that have changed and evolved over the years, weddings seems to stand the test of time.
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